Guilt.
You can let guilt eat away at you and erode your happiness indefinitely or use it as a catalyst for change. But what if the thing you are guilty about is part your very essence, part of who you are? Yes, I am talking about submission. It may not be something you are proud of, but my guess is that being submissive is not something you can brush aside or avoid, not for very long anyway.
Truth be told, guilt is not a topic a Goddess or Mistress enjoys dealing with. It takes away from the glory. Ideally, you would be proud and accepting of the submissive side of you that serves me. Many of you are and that pleases me to no end. That being said, there are some of you who have not yet dealt with your guilt. That is getting in the way of your service, my pleasure, and our happiness that could and should be.
Guilt is something that slows the fun and pleasure at best, and at worst is a constant torment that keeps you confused and disliking yourself. When the guilty submissive is turned on, he hates the part of himself that shies away from pleasure and denies who he truly is. After cumming, the guilty submissive feels ashamed of that other part and banishes those desires from ever returning, which doesn’t work. Sometimes after short willful acts of repression the desires come back with even more power.
Hopefully you are starting to see that with guilt in place in a submissive, no one wins. A sort of misery and survival is maintained, but where is the fun in that? Underneath the guilt is a lack of acceptance and allowance of who you really are. Maybe it’s familial, maybe it’s religious, maybe it’s that society at large does not welcome or celebrate a submissive man like I do. When it comes down to it, there are things each of wish we could change and wish could be different. I wish my father were still here. He died when I was 16. Though it has not been easy, I have come to terms with life without him and have found ways to enjoy my life immensely, even though he is no longer here.
So maybe if you could wish upon a star you would wish to be the dominant or equal man that society embraces, but don’t hold your breath waiting for that wish to come true. I have had some success with treatments on a few people who have begged for my help, but ultimately, none have let submission go completely. I find that submission is not something that can be corrected or removed. Have you tried it? Did it work? Maybe looking at your submission from a different perspective will create a greater difference than shaming yourself.
I have a different angle to try out for overcoming guilt. It begins with shifting your perspective away from your submission being a problem and I’ve put it into 3 steps.
1. Look at your submission from a different perspective:
Accept you! I know it would sound crazy to other people, but what if there were absolutely nothing wrong with being submissive?! If you stopped seeing it as a problem that you needed to fix or get rid of, what freedom would that create? I choose to celebrate submission because not only is it incredibly liberating to celebrate individuality, submission is the flip side to my pleasure, dominance! I’ll put it this way. If there were no beautiful, powerful, and dominant women, your submission would look pretty silly. But here I am and awaiting your service. It is your duty to serve. If you don’t, you are denying pleasure to yourself and to me. This step is about coming to terms with the fact that your submission is here to stay and what if that was a wonderful thing to be celebrated?
– If you would like to take this step further, I highly recommend the book, “Being You, Changing the World” by Dr. Dain Heer. It’s a very helpful guide that I have read and enjoyed thoroughly.
I created a therapeutic hypnosis audio for those committing to letting go of guilt. It may actually be easier to let it go than you thought. If you listen to this audio on repeat on very low volume, often, it will begin to change the way you feel, think, and experience guilt. It is especially good to listen while you sleep, or really anytime you are not driving. This audio will even help if you have guilt about going behind your family’s back or telling white lies to conceal your service to me if you are married or in a relationship.* You can buy and download this audio here for $15. It’s called, “Guilt and Shame No More”.
3. Find Someone To Explore Your Submission With Who You Can Trust
If you haven’t yet connected with me or another Mistress in your life, let me guess….you are afraid. It is scary to let go and be so very weak and vulnerable, especially with a stranger. The key is to find someone safe who is open to exploring this with you. It should be someone who you come to trust and who will not push you further than you feel safe going. Other than myself, I know one real time domme I would recommend in the L.A. area, but it’s not up to me to find you your Goddess. You will have to trust yourself for this step. Find someone you have a sense would take care of you and who you could really fall for. If it is me, that’s wonderful! You will have to find the right Goddess for you. Once you find her, let her know this has been an issue for you and that you are working on it.
This part is important: It is not up to your Goddess to remove your guilt. Your Goddess may be able to help, but this is work you will have to do. Though it may not be easy, the rewards will be plentiful! Also, if you have a niggling wonder if maybe once you find the right Goddess that your guilt will simply disappear, I want to assure you that is not the case and that is a trap which will keep you a slave to guilt.
So remember, find peace with the fact you are submissive and stop denying this important and valuable aspect of who you are. The audio will help that process along. When you are ready, find a dominant woman to explore submission with and remember it is you who can create a life beyond guilt!
XoXo Glitter Goddess
* If the guilt with around you submission is specifically about being married or in a committed relationship, you may want to read this article and get this video. Both will help.
Article: “Conflicted About Serving If You’re Married?”
Video: “Stroke Your Way To Better Sex With Your Wife or Girlfriend”